Can a man and a woman really be best friends???

This question has been asked many times. I predict that the answers to this question are mixed.

I think that it is possible for a man and a woman to be best friends. It’s when the desperate male friend gets lost in mixed signals. Why would this poor guy get lost in these signals? I think it’s because he wants to act on his fantasies. Fantasies are completely harmless until acted upon. I don’t think I could live without my fantasies (If you want to know about my fantasies, then take the time to get to know me, first). There is a reason why I have never had one girlfriend, or did anything to catch an unwanted infection/disease. I don’t think I am ready for my new name to be “Daddy”, or “Dada”, or “father”. If I have to think if I’m ready, then I’m probably not. Plus, I don’t value the risk of such activities on the cost of a $0.50 piece of latex. The health of my future offspring depends on me making good decisions. If you noticed, I said “good” decisions instead of “right”. There is a difference between the two, but I’ll save that for another journal write up.

As the old saying goes, “It’s always the man’s fault.” There are sometimes that it’s not the man’s fault. Women have the power to prevent a male/female friendship before it starts. How is this done? By turning their bitch defenses on high. Not all guys are out their to ask if there is a mirror in some girl’s pocket.

I like to use myself as an example of such a male. I actually prefer hanging around women rather than men. This isn’t a way for me to project a public image that I am straight. I have an entirely different reason that would probably offend some men.

Try to look at this from my perspective. When I hang around a group of guys, there is a very distinct smell. This smell that I speak of is sweat. It smells like I am at a gym when I am with a group of guys. When spending time with females, it’s a hell of a lot more pleasant. From my experience, females actually shower before going out in public, or at least make the effort to trick me into thinking they did. Most women seem to have mastered the art of perfume. When women apply perfume, they apply just enough. On the other hand, guys have mastered the art of bringing the cologne factory to everyone. You would not have to do that if you do that one little thing everyone should do everyday.

Also, there is some wisdom that only females have. Most of the lessons that I have learned have come from two places (my teachers/professors and women). What I learned from my guy friends is how to be territorial (or tough). There are exceptions to this, of course. My brother, father, and grandfather have given me much wisdom as well. All of this traces back to the feminist ethics of care (If you are reading this Professor Bashaw, I just wanted to let you know that I actually do remember this eventhough we were not tested on it).

I know this is probably one of my more contraversial/bias journal entries. If anyone has something to say, feel free to send me an email. I’m always willing to learn something new. There are times when we have to be completely wrong to gain more knowledge.