Who is this person?

This person…

• Can bring the best out of you.

• Has seen you at your worst.

• Knows what makes you tick.

• Is your closest friend.

On January 30, 2009, one of my friends gave one lucky woman her M.R.S. Translation… THEY GOT MARRIED!!! Congratulations to the two of you. We must celebrate this moment, extravagantly. How often do you get married? Ideally, you should marry once. The best of luck to the two of you in your marriage.

Do not forget, marriage is no game. You will learn more about your partner after you thought you have already known them. When you go out on dates, you see your boyfriend/girlfriend at their best. While you are married, you will get the opportunity to get a “behind the scenes” look at your partner. Here is where you see the sides of your spouse that others do not. You get to see the kind of quirks they have and maybe even some habits that you have never noticed. Will you be able to tolerate it?

Beating around the bush solves nothing. Neither does getting angry. Sometimes, when you see too much of a person, and stop understanding. It is at these times, words cannot take the place of actions. Communication is key in your marriage, but no one ever said that all communication has to be spoken. The more time that passes, it becomes harder to express your true feelings.

When you signed that piece of paper, I’m pretty sure this question came into your mind. “Is this right?” Or, here is another one. “Will I have any regrets?” Here is my response, “Why have these questions floating in your mind?” Your best years are ahead of you. Could you imagine your future without your spouse? We all have to grow up some time. We cannot wander around looking for the next fling everyday. There is no room for regrets in the present. Revisit those concerns that you had when you signed those papers a few years later. By that time, you should have your answer.

Remember this as well. When you marry someone, you might also have to accept your new in-laws. It is nice to think that you only married your spouse, but things can get complicated with the type of in-laws you gain. I’ll leave the pitfalls about in-laws up to your imagination. Not all in-laws are “bad.”

Make your marriage last. Divorces are too easy. Do not ever look at divorces as a backup plan for a failed marriage. If you are already thinking like that, why get married? Working out your issues will get the two of you even closer. Sometimes you fall in love after you have met someone. I hope this is the case with the two of you. “Love at first sight” is most likely lust.